tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-42912837725604998642024-03-05T05:03:28.036-08:00Try New ThingsSmall Steps to Sustainable FreedomKelly @Try New Thingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14783473072507979007noreply@blogger.comBlogger125125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4291283772560499864.post-30321581916830235352012-12-13T12:34:00.001-08:002012-12-13T12:36:18.511-08:00I have noticed that a lot of readers are still coming to this blog. The newer posts and the older posts are now at the following address <a href="http://www.kellymacdonald.org//">http://http://www.kellymacdonald.org//</a><br />
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Kelly @Try New Thingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14783473072507979007noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4291283772560499864.post-19887512714113120442012-10-08T07:42:00.001-07:002012-10-15T14:26:25.693-07:00Words That Will Inspire You to Try New Things<table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" style="width: 515px;"><tbody>
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<span class="firstword">Sometimes I gain quiet encouragement from the thoughts of those whom I admire. I wanted to share some of my favorites. I love where it says below that all life is an experiment. Takes away some of the fear, to know I am just experimenting and not making crucial, life changing decisions. </span><br />
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<span class="firstword">In</span> life, its rarely about getting a chance; its about taking a chance. You'll never be 100% sure it will work, but you can always be 100% sure doing nothing won't work. Most of the time you just have to go for it! And no matter how it turns out, it always ends up just the way it should be. Either you succeed or you learn something. Win-Win.</div>
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<span class="smtext"> Markesa Yeager</span><br />
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<span class="firstword">The</span> most unfortunate thing that happens to a person who fears failure is that he limits himself by becoming afraid to try anything new.</div>
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<span class="smtext"> Leo Buscaglia quotes </span>
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<span class="firstword">Progress</span> always involves risks. You can't steal second base and keep your foot on first.</div>
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<span class="smtext"> Frederick B Wilcox quotes </span><br />
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<span class="firstword">Take</span> up one idea. Make that one idea your life - think of it, dream of it, live on that idea. Let the brain, muscles, nerves, every part of your body, be full of that idea, and just leave every other idea alone. This is the way to success, that is way great spiritual giants are produced.</div>
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<span class="smtext"> Swami Vivekananda quotes </span><br />
</span>Do one thing every day that scares you.<br />
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The need to be right all the time is the biggest barrier to new ideas.<br />
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We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts.<br />
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With our thoughts, we make our world. Don’t be too timid and squeamish about your actions. All life is an experiment. The more experiments you make the better.<br />
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We can learn to move into the unknown with the confidence that we have a guiding force within us that is showing us the way.<br />
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You must begin to think of yourself as becoming the person you want to be.<br />
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Photo credit <a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/gi/">http://www.flickr.com/photos/gi/</a>Kelly @Try New Thingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14783473072507979007noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4291283772560499864.post-16345003827935696422012-07-19T07:50:00.002-07:002012-07-19T07:50:34.100-07:00The Holy Grail of Happy<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Trying New Things has become like second nature to me now. I started out by deciding to try new things each day. I planned in the morning what that new thing would be. And now, I do not have to plan anymore. Every day my mind searches for that new thing to spice up my day. It is on auto pilot now. I no longer have to think about it. <br />
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But when I see the 'new' thing for the day, it makes me smile. I head into whatever it is, large or small with an optimism and yes....happiness.<br />
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Happiness is the holy grail these days. We search for happiness. Really?<br />
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Next time, when you are actually in a place where you feel immensely happy, make your mind go still and identify where that feeling of happiness is coming from. If you are like me, that feeling is coming from inside of you. Maybe from the physical area associated with your heart. Coincidence that the icon of a heart and happiness are associated in the social consciousness. I think not.<br />
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So if the feeling of happy is coming from inside you, that means you have created it. Happiness is created, not found. Found implies that it is out there, for your to seek and take. A limited supply. But it is actually a feeling that you can create and experience. It is also, happily, ubiquitous. The source is deep and flowing. Your happiness does not subtract from the universal happiness. In fact it adds to others ability to feel the same way.<br />
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We need not to search for happiness but instead to create it and experience it on our own terms.<br />
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<a href="http://liveboldandbloom.com/07/self-improvement/be-uncool?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+liveboldandbloom%2FcnPm+%28Live+Bold+and+Bloom%29" target="_blank">In her column today, Barrie Davenport</a> speaks of being uncool and how it lets us live a life on our own terms instead of one that was officially cool. She quotes Dr. Brene Brown who likens a life of cool, to a life lived constantly in Spanx. Looking good on the outside, but feeling squeezed and constricted on the inside. Cool is not cool when you get clear on what you need.<br />
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So trying new things let's us discover the things that make us feel our deepest core of happiness inside. It lets us redefine cool for ourselves and recreate the world on our own terms. Each new thing you do gets filed as life affirming in an uncool way, or non life affirming and therefore discarded. To be happy make your life interesting. <br />
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Your life won't suddenly be happy. It won't always be happy. But you gradually emerge into that new place where there exists a ever present steady heartbeat of happiness, that is indestructible. Now that is cool....<br />
<br />Kelly @Try New Thingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14783473072507979007noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4291283772560499864.post-83550515762692429252012-07-04T17:10:00.003-07:002012-07-04T17:20:00.930-07:00Responsibility<table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><tbody>
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Kelly @Try New Thingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14783473072507979007noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4291283772560499864.post-58523981679563861832012-06-15T20:17:00.003-07:002012-06-15T20:18:09.226-07:00Let Your Real Strengths Shine Through<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><strong>Finding Your Strengths</strong></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Marcus Buckingham wrote several excellent books on Finding and Living your strengths. The reason that his books are breakthrough though, is not just because they help you find yourself. (Were you lost?)</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">His books are breakthrough because of the main premise on which he builds his whole process.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">A strength is not necessarily what you are good at but rather a strength is something that makes you feel strong.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">When you first read it you may well be underwhelmed given the huge workup I gave it in the opening paragraph. But go back and read it again.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">The first time I read it, I did read it again because it seemed so much a non event. But when you assimilate the meaning of a strength being what makes you feel strong versus what you are good at it makes you stop in your tracks.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><strong>Knowing this Can Change Your Life!</strong></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Or knowing this can let you change your life in a direction that honours who you are. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">When I think about my strengths, I think I am good at selling; I am pretty good at communicating with others; I am knowledgeable about nutrition and fitness; and I am good at supporting people when they experience a crisis. There are probably more but I am really sounding less than modest at this point. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Some of these are strengths in the typical sense of the word and some of them are things that make me feel good.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">They are how I define myself. Good at this; not so good at that. Like a frightening job interview. We form a fixed picture of what we are good at by the time we reach middle age. As a child certain qualities get reinforced and others go unrecognized. Unfortunately related to people who probably had our best interests in mind. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">In our childish search for approval some of our unrecognized strengths, as in the ones that make us feel good, get buried away even from our own view. Then at midlife those true strengths, the ones that make you feel strong, resurface and demand our attention. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">The constant mellifluous murmur of our souls. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I am in Sales and I have been for my entire career in one way or another. I have been quite good at it, so I assumed it might be a strength. But it is not something that made me feel good. And I do it everyday. So then, is it a strength? </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I remember when I took my first job in a restaurant, a friend said to my mother, "Great that will help her break out of her shyness". Not sure why that one stuck with me. This was the beginning of denying the self that was not acceptable to share with the world. Was I shy or introverted? And BTW introverted is not a weakness.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I spent my lifetime learning how to work a room and now I am quite excellent at it. But it is not a strength because it never feels good. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: small;">So how do we define what our true strengths are? It is a tough one because we get all tangled up in the things that we do well but that do not make us feel good.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: small;">Look for the things that when you think of them they make you smile.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">When you think of doing them you feel your body relax and breathe. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">That feeling of being free and untethered. You will feel your power when you think of a strength in the new definition of the word. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">It just feels good. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">And Peaceful.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">And powerful in a nondestructive sense of the word.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">And Easy.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Like a jazz saxaphone solo on high volume. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Nobody can really tell you what they are because true strengths make you feel strong when you are doing them but they are not identifiable from the outside.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I feel strong when I write, when I run, when I support someone in crisis. And I feel strong when I am alone. (Not all the time though)</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Try a few on and listen to your heartsong. Thing about what you do for a living and ask if it makes you feel strong. (Or maybe we shouldn't look at this one too closely!)</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">And easy.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">And power full.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">And peaceful.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">And add them to your life because feeling strong is what it's all about.</span><br />
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<br />Kelly @Try New Thingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14783473072507979007noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4291283772560499864.post-12828472336255675712012-05-14T18:32:00.002-07:002012-05-14T18:36:57.848-07:00Follow Your Passion. Really?<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjeSzm_-Bg5CHBHIxODM_GZaAzowcKHREIGiXyat_eCTjx24OWEa_a9ZtYntBFcppz0a9zn5ybtoPAHGgXxa4GNFoTjV0mf77mgGJZDbBo-faxIiTgnlGTGnjMolCCc0ofH5gQt3XE6Hxc/s1600/199.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left:1em; margin-right:1em"><img border="0" height="500" width="700" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjeSzm_-Bg5CHBHIxODM_GZaAzowcKHREIGiXyat_eCTjx24OWEa_a9ZtYntBFcppz0a9zn5ybtoPAHGgXxa4GNFoTjV0mf77mgGJZDbBo-faxIiTgnlGTGnjMolCCc0ofH5gQt3XE6Hxc/s400/199.JPG" /></a></div><br />
I have been reading a lot of different articles about following your passion and finding a job that makes your heart sing. Really? Is it possible to actually have a job that suits your passion. A job that is actually your passion?<br />
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I think musicians find that their job is their passion and maybe artists too. I have a friend that is a super editor/copywriter and she started a business that is totally her passion. I know a twenty something man who is moving speedily upward in a funky SEO company and he loves his job. These people get paid to do what they are passionate about. <br />
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When you are in your twenties there are a lot of jobs that light us up. So what happens as we age. Do we get jaded? What does that really mean though? The same job that once made us happy no longer does. Is the secret to remaining passionate on a job then to change jobs frequently?<br />
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Barry Schwartz in his TED talk on happiness suggests that having too many choices makes happiness elusive. That the secret of happiness comes from fewer choices. His studies suggest that as choices multiply, so do our expectations. The secret to happiness, according to Schwartz is lower expectations. Hmmmm.... Lower expectations, fewer choices. If there are fewer choices we are indeed more easily satisfied with where we end up. When you have the whole world to choose from there will always be the road not taken.<br />
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As we age, we get increasingly altruistic, and more focused on the things that make us truly tick and are thus, we are unwilling to spend the majority of our day doing things that do not align with the person we are becoming. And our purpose that is becoming clearer.<br />
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This is where there sits a huge leap of faith. There are those who make the leap and find new meaning and there are those who remain in their safe place with their safe income but not their passion. It is a trade off for sure. Those who go, often trade money for passion and settle with earning less in the beginning.<br />
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But there are ways through multiple streams of income to define multiple paths that make your heart sing and do a little bit of each. The end result is that you are spending most of your time doing fulfilling work and your sum total income could possibly touch your income in your previous life of passionless work. Definitely worth a second look.Kelly @Try New Thingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14783473072507979007noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4291283772560499864.post-18663472439675488512012-05-08T14:11:00.006-07:002012-05-14T18:28:50.041-07:00Jump and the Net Will Appear<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgO74Nc1_TvC0iS2W6PK81ly_F2zcOdS1M4ZmU2zDXjeRCXGj8ebvZMhPvZB1FK2izypGmKEL51jUJHzYbLD7lr16Xgqoe4TSvik5qn1xiRJd_uL74pZR5eZf4EEs26xk7b8HOazfRaFPY/s1600/scream052807.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgO74Nc1_TvC0iS2W6PK81ly_F2zcOdS1M4ZmU2zDXjeRCXGj8ebvZMhPvZB1FK2izypGmKEL51jUJHzYbLD7lr16Xgqoe4TSvik5qn1xiRJd_uL74pZR5eZf4EEs26xk7b8HOazfRaFPY/s320/scream052807.jpg" width="300" /></a></div>"In seeking our freedom we liberate our potential to accomplish incredible things" Danielle La Porte in <a href="http://www.amazon.ca/The-Fire-Starter-Sessions-Practical/dp/030795210X" target="_blank">Fire Starter Sessions</a> .<br />
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When we are young we have a true appreciation of our freedom. Freedom of movement, to sing out loud, to run all day without a destination, to approach strangers because you think you might want to know them.<br />
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When we get older we have trouble defining what true freedom can look like. We have responsibilities, jobs, kids and mortgages that limit our willingness to think about freedom as anything other than a dream. Freedom appears 'out there' as something that is no longer possible because of the decisions we have made. Or is it?<br />
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If freedom liberates our potential to accomplish incredible things then can you just leap and hope you will find your incredible thing? Sounds scary. Finding your incredible thing seems like the wisdom of the self help gurus online and I always envisioned that I might be the exception to the ``Jump and the net will appear`` idea. As the exception to this exciting idea, I land on the pavement of life with nothing to show for the fifty year stint to date. A risky proposition this jumping without a net.<br />
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So is there a temporary net that you can put out to at least buffer the fall if it does happen. Sometimes you get a push, in the form of a pink slip, and you go into free fall that was not of your own making. Other times you just have to jump. You can plan the jump timing though. And you can create a short term net to protect you until you explore and find your place in the new version that is your life.<br />
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I will detail some ideas for that short term net in posts to come. There are lots of them. <br />
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So sign up to receive free regular updates to my blog so you won`t miss the great ideas that will let you create your own path to freedom.Kelly @Try New Thingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14783473072507979007noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4291283772560499864.post-44605867407454878212012-04-01T19:08:00.004-07:002012-05-14T18:27:02.614-07:00Try Something New for 30 Days"The next 30 days are going to pass whether you like it or not, so why not think about something you have always wanted to try and give it a shot for the next 30 days?” (Matt Cutts)<br />
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I came across a great talk about Trying New Things on TED Talks. If you have never been there check out TED talks just for the sheer fun of it. Topics are endless and many are delivered by highly qualified people in their fields. This one though is just fun. I like how he brings the idea of trying something new down to it's simplest components.<br />
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We all have the best of intentions in wanting to start tomorrow. Then tomorrow comes and goes. It is a matter, he says, of committing to doing something to move you toward your goal every day for a month. He claims that you can do anything if you only have to do it for a month.<br />
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Matt wanted to write a novel for years. He wrote a book in 30 days by making sure to put 1667 words per day onto paper. He concurs that it may not have been the greatest novel but he did finish it. Now he can edit the piece and he can also brag that he is a novelist.<br />
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He agrees with my previous blog post that we need to make small changes. Small changes he says are sustainable. Big changes, although they can be a great rush, are not sustainable. <br />
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He ended up writing a novel and climbing Kilimanjaro and getting in shape by making small changes towards the goal each day for thirty days. <br />
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He concludes that time becomes more meaningful and that his self confidence soared because of all he had achieved by doing small things each day. So there were some unexpected benefits besides the actual goal attainment.<br />
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I am doing this 30 day challenge to get myself to the starting line of a half marathon with my son who is running the full marathon on May 9th. I will update you throughout the month to let you know my progress and see if the phrase "you can do anything if it is only for 30 days" is true.<br />
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What have you been putting off. What goals do you have percolating in the back of your mind. Bring them out into the daylight and put them to the thirty day challenge. If you don't make the whole 30 days you will still be that little bit closer to the goal. And when the goal has a light shining on it, we tend to look at it every which way and figure out what we need to do to make it happen.<br />
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30 days. Imagine how your life could be different in 30 days.<br />
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I will leave you with a profound quote that reminds us why we need goals. I have no reference so if anyone knows who said this just put it into the comments and I would love to give credit for this life changing quote.<br />
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"In the absence of clearly defined goals, we become strangely loyal to performing daily trivia until we ultimately become enslaved by it." Hmmmm......scary.<br />
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Watch the video as there is much more content in the actual video. Simple but amazing.<br />
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Here is the link.<a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/matt_cutts_try_something_new_for_30_days.html">http://www.ted.com/talks/matt_cutts_try_something_new_for_30_days.html</a>Kelly @Try New Thingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14783473072507979007noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4291283772560499864.post-39884220809651229232012-03-24T10:01:00.002-07:002012-05-14T18:48:24.706-07:00Nothing Days are Productive Days<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiZ3oAMxHVmYTL8EKBniaJzCWvPf1iL9dbquYQVg7elh0J-gYjmqT2ndHwsFEYEsg-Jx2V30URSL8DGcg4lxCKdAqJUW1-OadQGeZEnxIsWWQbemfv9WxEuYqyFwYZj6vvNCC9ye5WaK2Y/s1600/hammock-on-the-beach.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="471" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiZ3oAMxHVmYTL8EKBniaJzCWvPf1iL9dbquYQVg7elh0J-gYjmqT2ndHwsFEYEsg-Jx2V30URSL8DGcg4lxCKdAqJUW1-OadQGeZEnxIsWWQbemfv9WxEuYqyFwYZj6vvNCC9ye5WaK2Y/s400/hammock-on-the-beach.jpg" width="600" /></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"></div><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">I recently had a day where I did nothing. The entire day passed with reasonable activity but nothing I would have remotely classified as an accomplishment. Read a novel, walked my dog, went for a run, shopped for a new recipe I wanted to make. I had fun that day, no doubt about it but when it was over I had a sense that I had wasted it.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">So how do we determine what is a productive day and what is not a productive day. Is it a list item that gets ticked off the never ending list? Is there a monetary association with anything that gets classified as productive? As in, if I did not make money then it was not a productive day? Maybe it involves moving a project forward in a significant way. But this one leaves us open to believing that we did not accomplish anything, if we tried something new, but it did not work out.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Sometimes there is a monetary association with accomplishing something. This is easy to classify as an accomplishment. I went to work and made $$ so I accomplished something today. What about exercising? I went for a run or worked out and so I accomplished something today. Those are easy.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">What if we redefined a productive day as one which allowed us to heal our mind and our body? Then a whole other group of activities suddenly become relevant. In that logic do our workday activities then qualify as part of a productive day? Probably not. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Does sitting by the fire reading a great book qualify as an accomplishment? You bet. Taking a long walk on a sunny breezy day also qualifies as an accomplishment if our goal is to heal our mind and body. Creating healthy food qualifies as an accomplishment. Spending time with those you love becomes an accomplishment rather than something that gets squeezed in on the list. Trying something new, regardless of the result, becomes an activity worth pursuing.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">There is no doubt that going to work and doing other things that we don't prefer needs to be done. But if we start with the definition of a productive day as one that heals our body and our mind then it can inspire all kinds of healing activities to hit the list. Getting more done at work takes a second place to a walking break in the middle of the day.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">We need to know that healing days are not wasteful days. Idle times refresh our souls. Time spent doing things that nourish our souls, helps us to expand and grow. And in this growth we become more than we were. And more than we thought we could be.</span>Kelly @Try New Thingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14783473072507979007noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4291283772560499864.post-57756497239736889122012-03-05T13:23:00.001-08:002012-03-22T15:40:39.535-07:00Humans on the Beach<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjiNZbdIi9nIhprdmZkfVeYAd3N-nX1eSfBz7NGLaweBAFp2jDj2VPcCPUuCZTtdS1MiSdGzQCNVTsEKS9XHcZVjqlE-OG9_rWWXldRphU9c3H7mnVhyphenhyphenjhJ_tboJGnh5PobTuQKOLDO6qzn/s1600/beach+222+173.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="213px" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjiNZbdIi9nIhprdmZkfVeYAd3N-nX1eSfBz7NGLaweBAFp2jDj2VPcCPUuCZTtdS1MiSdGzQCNVTsEKS9XHcZVjqlE-OG9_rWWXldRphU9c3H7mnVhyphenhyphenjhJ_tboJGnh5PobTuQKOLDO6qzn/s320/beach+222+173.jpg" uda="true" width="320px" /></a></div><span style="font-size: large;">The birds line up on the beach in perfect formation every day. I have tried to figure out a rationale for why they do this. They all face the same way and stand stoically facing into the wind. They seem to have predesignated spots and they all know where they belong. I wonder what they are doing and how they know when to stand and when to fly off together at the same time? </span><br /><br /><span style="font-size: large;">I was walking along the beach in St. Petersburg today and I had a few insights that I would like to share. The first one is if an alien landed on the beach what would they think all these people, who are walking the beach, were doing?They would think we were a strange species and wonder what the purpose of this mass activity was. Just like me as I observe the birds.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-size: large;">The second thing that strikes me is that despite the number of hotels and increasing number of people on the beach, it remains pristine, clean and indistinguishable from a beach that would be vacant. It is a beautiful beach and the numbers of people who use it does not change that wildness and beauty. It is a great testament to the intermittent altruism of the human race.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-size: large;">Thirdly, I have been walking on the beach every day. Today was cold as far as beach days here go and there were far fewer people willing to brave the beach. The wind blew hard and cold, relatively speaking, and the beach was wild and desolate and might even be disturbing to some. I found it to be nature at its finest and although I wore a couple of sweatshirts and pulled up the hood, I still braved the beach at it's wildest.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-size: large;">This was my observation while I walked the beach that morning. The few remaining people who came out showed a distinct level of camaraderie with each of the other brave souls on the beach. This camaraderie exists on warm calm days but not in the same way. It passes as a head nod on warm days. Or the odd wave. But today people spoke and stopped like we knew each other. We shared a thought with every passer by. It was uniquely different than all the other days out there. I felt like part of a group who was uniquely capable of some sort of achievement that became a point of commonality between strangers on the beach. There was no age or gender distinction just us and them. Funny comment on our humanness. When things are difficult we organize and align ourselves with each other.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-size: large;">Small microcosm of human behavior where in the bigger picture we have survived through the ages by grouping together to defeat a common foe. When things are most difficult in the bigger scheme of things we help each other and we make connections that we might otherwise disdain or worse, ignore.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-size: large;">We are a funny race, we humans aren't we? Maybe I just need to get back to work really soon.</span>Kelly @Try New Thingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14783473072507979007noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4291283772560499864.post-67331486437559996712012-02-02T15:53:00.001-08:002012-03-22T15:42:51.256-07:00Would You Prefer a $5 Bottle of Wine or a $90 Bottle?<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-22kvUL11PIU/TysehcExBYI/AAAAAAAAAYs/53edDdlGo-8/s1600/wine-tasting-whitewater.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-22kvUL11PIU/TysehcExBYI/AAAAAAAAAYs/53edDdlGo-8/s1600/wine-tasting-whitewater.jpg" /></a></div><br /><br /><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><a href="http://media.caltech.edu/press_releases/13091">Antonio Rangel, an associate professor of economics at Caltech</a> did a study in which the participants tried five red wines and rated them. They showed a price for each of the wines ranging from $5 - $90. As would be expected the participants rated the wines basically according to price. The higher priced wines were rated higher than the cheaper wines. The researchers had connected brain scan equipment that showed the activity in the pleasure centres of the brain were highly active when they tried the higher priced wines. The participants experienced more pleasure cognitively when they tried the expensive wines.</span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;">Here was the catch. The $90 bottle of wine and the $10 bottle of wine were the same wine and yet the ratings showed the $90 bottle to be highly preferred and the $10 wine to be less preferred. The pleasure centres of the brain were significantly more active when tasting the $90 bottle versus the same wine labelled at $10. "The area of their brain that is thought to encode for the pleasantness of the experience was more active when they drank wine they believed had higher prices."</span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;">Now it makes sense that we consciously prefer the $90 bottle given our past experiences that tell us that a $90 bottle of wine will be better than a $10 bottle. Add in that generally people want to be viewed as knowing a good thing when it is presented to them, and that higher price generally dictates a better wine. But how do we explain an actual physical reaction in the brain to a $90 bottle and a completely different physical reaction in the brain to that same wine with a $10 price tag.</span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;">The researchers concluded that "the brain encodes pleasure because it is useful for learning which activities to repeat and which ones to avoid, and good decision making requires good measures of the quality of an experience. But the brain is also a noisy environment, and thus, as a way of improving its measurements, it makes sense to add up other sources of information about the experience. In particular, if you are very sure cognitively that an experience is good (perhaps because of previous experiences), it makes sense to incorporate that into your current measurements of pleasure. Most people believe, quite correctly, that price and the quality of a wine are correlated, so it is therefore natural for the brain to factor price into an evaluation of a wine's taste."</span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;">It exposes how vulnerable we are to marketing and persuasion. Our brains, seeking to be efficient in evaluating our world, learn short cuts and in actuality that very efficiency encourages conformity as we seek to hurry through our environment and evaluate the endless choices offered. It also highlights that our expectations can create our experiences. Our expectations can create a physical experience in our brain! This one has immense potential if we use it.</span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;">Just a note that when the same researchers had the participants evaluate the wines without price tags the highest pleasure centre activity came from the $5 bottle. Hmmmm....</span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;">I like studies like this as they make me become more conscious in how I choose. I find it insanely fascinating when we get to watch our brains in action. Years of learning layered in and influencing choices that we are unaware that we are even making. Seeing into our subconscious mind is enlightening. It makes me want to see more and it changes the way I view my life.</span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;">Thanks to researchers at Caltech for sharing your experiences.</span>Kelly @Try New Thingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14783473072507979007noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4291283772560499864.post-12201566954595688942012-01-09T19:22:00.000-08:002012-03-24T10:41:36.672-07:00New Things are Hard<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<span style="font-size: large;">It is interesting that no matter how much we try to focus on doing new things we always revert back to what is safe and comfortable. We profess that we would like to shake things up a little by stepping out our groove and trying something new.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">But that old familiar demon of fear stands before you with hands on hips, and challenges you on why would you want to do something new. Why shake the status quo? Why move out of this comfy little spot that you have worked so hard to create? Why try something that you don't really know how to do?</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">And you know that little demon is loud and intimidating and so you go back to that small place that you have stayed in for a very long time. You go to work, watch television, sleep and eat and maybe, just maybe get to the gym here and there. And you long to rattle that cage that you have created.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">So, we need to challenge fear. Most successful people say that they feel the fear and go forward anyway. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Fear of not succeeding, fear of looking foolish, fear of regretting a decision that you cannot go back on. Life is full of these choices and we all make some wrong and some right.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">But staying in one place and not making a decision to change, is still making a decision. A decision to stay where you are. A decision to not grow. A decision not to try new things.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Most people on their death beds regret the things they did not do, not the things they did. Hmmm.....</span>Kelly @Try New Thingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14783473072507979007noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4291283772560499864.post-84657230660632159992012-01-02T17:31:00.000-08:002012-03-22T15:33:23.202-07:0010 Reasons to Try Something New Every Day<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiOU7VX2N7RJVVCWOXp5m8lxhwzwe4_GdeJlEvi0tapRQMpkzqBjEqcBONwc6FL8sN6l8rPL2okAJxellWIb2spNYw-BxQ3MjOm-qQsE6nA11xymRQPnGdP60JXow2RQR2_9iu8qB7hZrM/s1600/Testing-the-Water.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="213" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiOU7VX2N7RJVVCWOXp5m8lxhwzwe4_GdeJlEvi0tapRQMpkzqBjEqcBONwc6FL8sN6l8rPL2okAJxellWIb2spNYw-BxQ3MjOm-qQsE6nA11xymRQPnGdP60JXow2RQR2_9iu8qB7hZrM/s320/Testing-the-Water.jpg" width="320" /></a></div><span style="font-size: large;"><b>"Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new". Albert Einstein.</b></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;">Two years ago I shook things up by trying to do something new every day. It was challenging to find something new every day but two years in, I have accomplished about 650 new things. (That is 70 short to compensate for the less than motivated days that creep in here and there. On those days old habits feel like just the right thing.)</span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;">These 650 new things ran the spectrum of trying a new wine to reading a new genre of book to trying a new menu item in an old restaurant. I took a Photography course to learn about all those cool buttons on my camera, I started a second blog, ran a new race that I had never gone into before and went cycling in Wine Country with friends. I ran on a new path while running, and tried new spices in new recipes. I spoke to people I might not have spoken to. </span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;">So you see some of the new things were simple and instantaneous; others took time and commitment. But all of them took me out of my comfort zone even if it was just a tiny step out! Admittedly though, I also did about 600 things wrong. Because when you try something new you make a lot of mistakes. </span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;">And although that was not the reason for my quest, it turned out to be an amazing lesson for that safe little person who never likes to fail.We all start out trying new things when we are young. We try them with the excitement and abandonment of trying something new that is inherent in that age of discovery. </span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;">As we get older we learn not to embarrass ourselves by doing something wrong and so we back away from things that are new and different. We learn to value what others think over learning new skills. And so we stop learning and recede to our safe little status quo. We do not try new things so we do not make any mistakes. Life is safe and maybe the days start to look the same. And you wonder what happened to that exciting try almost anything person that you used to be.</span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><b>So here are 10 really good reasons to Try Something New every day.</b></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;">1. It is exhilarating to try something new and different and see it through. To accomplish what seemed to be hard. There is no other feeling like looking back and realizing that you have this new skill in your portfolio. </span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;">2. Having multiple skills in your portfolio makes you interested and interesting. (which are two different things.) You get jobs that you would not have gotten, you speak with people that you might not have had anything in common with and you go places that you did not even know were out there.</span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;">3. One new experience leads to another and the sequence takes on a momentum of it's own, taking you on one adventure after another. After the initial month or so new things start leading to other new things and the natural inertia that originally made this difficult, falls away.</span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;">4. It takes the sameness out of each and every day. You might say that you like the comfort of sameness but really that is inertia and that old comfort zone that you prefer. Resistance. Staying in your comfort zone. Most people when they blast through that initial inertia become addicted to the variety and stimulation of the path to trying new things.</span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;">5. Trying new things gives you new found energy and it compounds itself as it takes hold. Energy breeds more energy. When you get stuck in a rut you lose touch with your personal energy. It emerges again when you try new things. And it comes roaring back when you begin the quest.</span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;">6. Trying new things does not cost anything but gives big returns. We spend a lot of money trying to soothe the restless self inside of us. Trying new things does not cost money but stirs your soul in ways you could never have imagined.</span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;">7. Trying new things feels awkward and uncomfortable and exciting and pleasant all at the same time. You plan to do it. Then when the time comes to do it, you wonder why you set yourself up for all this worry and discomfort. You feel the need to retreat and cancel. But you must go forward towards that thing you fear because the other side feels so great!</span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;">8. Trying new things makes you grow as a person. You just cannot do 650 new things and still remain the same. Your life is propelled forward in new directions and to new places. Big changes for small initiatives.</span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;">9. You can change your life in repeated small ways. Huge changes, especially at first, are too fearsome to fathom so they never get done. But small ones do. And small ones accumulate to big changes. And your confidence in your ability to handle change grows as you accomplish each small change. So you become confidant that you can handle increasingly bigger changes. So you try them and succeed and your confidence grows. </span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;">10. Small changes let you make small mistakes and you learn that making mistakes is okay and that your world did not come undone because something did not work the first time. Your natural instinct when something does not work is to put it away and not try it any more. When you get on a path of trying new things, you expect to make mistakes and so you just keep failing your way to success. </span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;">It turns out it is fun! Making mistakes. Laughing at your attempts. Trying new things. Growing and changing. Learning. Living. Gaining confidence. What's not love about this process! </span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;">Try one new thing each day. Make them small at first so you can feel the vision of what bigger things will bring. Record them each day to keep you accountable and not to let too many 'same' days slip by. </span><span style="font-size: large;"> </span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span>Kelly @Try New Thingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14783473072507979007noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4291283772560499864.post-80282397452601856292011-04-24T18:57:00.000-07:002012-03-22T15:33:23.198-07:00The Watchers<iframe src="http://rcm.amazon.com/e/cm?t=awork-20&o=1&p=8&l=bpl&asins=1573241172&fc1=000000&IS2=1<1=_blank&m=amazon&lc1=0000FF&bc1=000000&bg1=FFFFFF&f=ifr" style="align:left;padding-top:5px;width:131px;height:245px;padding-right:10px;"align="left" scrolling="no" marginwidth="0" marginheight="0" frameborder="0"></iframe>Mark Nepo is a genius at putting words on paper that succinctly describe a multitude of feelings. He is easily able to describe things and feelings in ways that I feel, but am unable to describe. In his book The Book of Awakenings I am repeatedly awed by his ability to do this.<br /><br />In his September 3 passage, he speaks of growing up under our parent's and teacher's watchful eye and then going forward in life and feeling as if they might still be watching. By then we have internalized their watchfulness and made it our own. "As I reached adulthood, the habit continued. I walked around constantly troubled by what others must be thinking of what I was or was not doing. In this, we are burdened with the seeds of self consciousness. From this we trouble our spontaneity and the possibility of joy by watching ourselves too closely, nervously unsure if this or that is a mistake." <br /><br />I loved this passage and it puts words on a feeling that runs in the background and self monitors our actions and words. There is a trade off in that it makes us monitor our behaviour for success and acceptance where we wish it to be. It is only as we grow tired of behaving that we seek to escape 'the watchers' as he calls them. To feel the spontaneity that has succumbed to the need for propriety. As we age and see the world from a different perspective we realize that no one is really watching. Those we thought were watching have their own life tales unfolding. And we also see that if people are watching to judge, it really does not change us or our place in the world.<br /><br />We need to laugh out loud, dance and sometimes behave outrageously to really feel our freedom from our self-watch. We need to try new things without concern for who is deciding whether we should or should not be doing it. We need to have new experiences without being fearful of making mistakes. <br /><br />"Now the audience of watchers is gone and I can feel life happen in its quiet, vibrant way without anything interfering. Now, sometimes at night, when the dog is asleep and the owl is beginning to stare into what no one ever sees, I stand on the deck and feel the honey of night fall off the stars, feel it coat the earth, the trees, the minds of children half asleep, feel the stillness evaporate all notions of fame into the unwatched space that waits for light."<br /><br />His way with words takes my breath away.<br /><br /><iframe src="http://rcm.amazon.com/e/cm?t=awork-20&o=1&p=8&l=bpl&asins=1573241172&fc1=000000&IS2=1<1=_blank&m=amazon&lc1=0000FF&bc1=000000&bg1=FFFFFF&f=ifr" style="align:left;padding-top:5px;width:131px;height:245px;padding-right:10px;"align="left" scrolling="no" marginwidth="0" marginheight="0" frameborder="0"></iframe>Kelly @Try New Thingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14783473072507979007noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4291283772560499864.post-13005969159212546372011-04-20T08:20:00.000-07:002012-03-22T15:33:23.169-07:00Our Greatest Achievements Are Ahead...<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-kfPUR-lMgxE/Ta70F586dtI/AAAAAAAAAXw/C4v9x_QSNm8/s1600/gears.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear:left; float:left;margin-right:1em; margin-bottom:1em"><img border="0" height="400" width="266" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-kfPUR-lMgxE/Ta70F586dtI/AAAAAAAAAXw/C4v9x_QSNm8/s400/gears.jpg" /></a></div><br />Marti Barletta is head of a marketing company <a href="http://trendsight.com/">Trend Sight Group </a>that consults with companies who seek to market to women. She has determined that women, especially those in their 50's and 60's wield the most purchasing power due to their role in both the workplace and family and their comparatively high disposable income. <br /><br />For all the amazing strengths that this company brings I still find a singular quote that Marti makes as one of the most revealing and motivating statements about women at this point in our lives. She says that we "experience the joy of being, relish liberation from expectation,rock our world, brim with confidence and live life in drive, who feel our greatest achievements are ahead of us." Amazing in this simple sentence and between each set of commas is a unique profound thought, each segment of the sentence worth thinking on.<br /><br />We "experience the joy of being". For all its advantages, being young just never let you feel the joy of just being. Or maybe it did, but we were too filled with angst and expectation to really see it for what it was. A deeply thought filled, peaceful, joyful state where there are no expectations or performance requirements and we can see and appreciate a moment for just what it is. We need to expand those moments so they fill a greater proportion of our day.<br /><br />We "relish liberation from expectation." A whole lifetime of doing what was expected of us from our early years to high school, to marriage and children and jobs. A now we just want to define what it is that makes us tick and shed the shackles of expectation. A virtual explosion of joy each time we are able to make a small change in the process of liberating ourselves from the demands and expectations of life as it should be.<br /><br />We "rock our world, live with confidence and live life in drive." Get out of the passenger seat and drive. Where was it you wanted to go? What was it you planned to do in your private dreaming moments? We get to find those dreams and create them now. Not easy. Scary...a little. But exhilarating to go towards them. I love that 'rock our world' phase. How long has it been since something has truly rocked your world? Brings us back to the quest for safety and conformity that eventually becomes the self created box in which we live our lives.<br /><br />In his book Awakenings, Mark Nepo shares an enlightening passage that applies to how we live. This entry is for January 9 in his book and it is called "Life In the Tank". I will quote the passage in order to do it justice. "It was a curious thing. Robert had filled the bathtub and put the fish in the tub, so he could clean their tank. After he'd scrubbed the film from the small walls of their make-believe deep, he went to retrieve them.<br /><br />He was astonished to find that, though they had the entire tub to swim in, they were huddled in a small area the size of their tank. There was nothing to contain them, nothing to hold them back. Why wouldn't they dart about freely? What had life in the tank done to their natural ability to swim?".<br /><br />You can, no doubt see the analogy to how we live our lives. We work hard to establish this safe place in the world and then at this point we need to work really hard to shed our quest for safety and move into DRIVE. "Rock Our World!" And the truly amazing part of the phrase is "who feel our greatest achievements are ahead of us." That is simply the most exciting part of the quote. Because the typical view of this stage in our lives is that our best years are behind us. But that does not need to be true. She shatters the typical view that our years ahead should be a gradual slide into old age. Is it possible (and a bit exciting) that our greatest achievements are yet to come? It changes the playing field to think like that and it changes how you look at your personal future. And it makes you accountable to create what could be. Drive!<br /><br /><br /><br />If you want to read more of the life changing stuff by Mark Nepo: <br /><a target="_blank" href="http://www.amazon.com/Book-Awakening-Having-Being-Present/dp/1573241172?ie=UTF8&tag=awork-20&link_code=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969">The Book of Awakening: Having the Life You Want by Being Present to the Life You Have</a><img src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=awork-20&l=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969&o=1&a=1573241172" width="1" height="1" border="0" alt="" style="border:none !important; margin:0px !important; padding: 0px !important" /><br /><br />For those of you who would like to read more by Marti Barletta <a target="_blank" href="http://www.amazon.com/PrimeTime-Women-Hearts-Business-Spenders/dp/1419593307?ie=UTF8&tag=awork-20&link_code=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969">PrimeTime Women: How to Win the Hearts, Minds, and Business of Boomer Big Spenders</a><img src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=awork-20&l=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969&o=1&a=1419593307" width="1" height="1" border="0" alt="" style="border:none !important; margin:0px !important; padding: 0px !important" /><a target="_blank" href="http://www.amazon.com/Marketing-Women-Increase-Worlds-Largest/dp/1419520199?ie=UTF8&tag=awork-20&link_code=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969">Marketing to Women: How to Increase Your Share of the World's Largest Market</a><img src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=awork-20&l=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969&o=1&a=1419520199" width="1" height="1" border="0" alt="" style="border:none !important; margin:0px !important; padding: 0px !important" />Kelly @Try New Thingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14783473072507979007noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4291283772560499864.post-72712606338426749632011-04-15T10:17:00.000-07:002012-03-22T15:33:23.194-07:00Yoga Rocks!I have been attending Yoga classes for a month or so now and I think I now have a modicum of experience which allows me to share my first impressions. Having spent my life participating in sports with a harder, faster, stronger ethos, yoga always seemed to me to be a sidebar in my life. Something I would eventually get to, but never did. <br /><br />I have now attended a series of yoga classes with different instructors, on the advice given to me by a woman at my club. She had suggested not making my judgement on yoga until I had tried a series of classes with different instructors. <br /><br />One class I went to seemed focused on muscle strength and the ability to hold tentative poses for a long time. I figured that since I lift weights this would be easy. But it wasn't. And when we did the exercise designed to move you closer to being able to do the splits, I realized just how inflexible I have become. And I thought, I want to do that. I want to be able to do the splits again.<br /><br />Another class focused on multiple short poses seemingly designed for opening up parts of the body that are seldom stretched in real life. It was amazing. We did a pose with the blocks which opened up my spine and chest area and it felt so good, I could have held it forever.(See below)The instructor was young and assumed that nobody knew the poses and so it was great for a beginner like me.<br /><br />And the third instructor took us through a series of contortions that I found difficult to coordinate. I followed it exactly through the whole class and thought that this went against all the ideas of what yoga should be. Complex, difficult, and always thinking. And I realized that it is a combination of my learning curve and stretching parts of me that do not get stretched that was causing me to lose my Zen. But after the class, as I went through my day, I felt amazing. My body felt limber, and seemed to be there at my command. <br /><br />Despite all my different abilities in fitness, I have never achieved that mind body congruence that was hinted at in my first month of yoga. I now understand what all the excitement is about. I like where the first month and eight classes have taken me. From skeptic to zealot, I think I will continue with this and see where it takes me.<br /><br />Here is a great pose for stretching a part of your back that until now was only attainable by a visit to the chiropractor. You will be surprised at how effective it is. And you can replace the blocks with anything soft like towel stacks. <br /><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-WZ-NXSYmGeE/Tah5Zd1pQRI/AAAAAAAAAXo/OotcY8hyaj8/s1600/restorative-backbend-with-blocks.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear:left; float:left;margin-right:1em; margin-bottom:1em"><img border="0" height="252" width="400" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-WZ-NXSYmGeE/Tah5Zd1pQRI/AAAAAAAAAXo/OotcY8hyaj8/s400/restorative-backbend-with-blocks.jpg" /></a></div>Image compliments of <a href="http://www.google.ca/imgres?imgurl=http://elsieyogakula.files.wordpress.com/2007/03/restorative-backbend-with-blocks.jpg&imgrefurl=http://elsieyogakula.wordpress.com/category/yoga/page/2/&usg=__0zQ2MJDsizYgoWne2o4dixXB4dI=&h=365&w=579&sz=240&hl=en&start=1&sig2=SuVrBEeYRf2ttJb-XRSdxw&zoom=1&itbs=1&tbnid=O4t2udctrQ02EM:&tbnh=84&tbnw=134&prev=/images%3Fq%3Drestorative%2Bback%2Bbend%2Bblocks%26hl%3Den%26sa%3DG%26gbv%3D2%26tbm%3Disch&ei=J3qoTbfWJa-E0QHHmMH5CA">Elsie's Yoga<br /></a>Kelly @Try New Thingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14783473072507979007noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4291283772560499864.post-9012041307720880002011-04-11T08:34:00.000-07:002012-03-22T15:33:23.204-07:00Do You Like Me?<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-pzFY7mPg-9k/TaMfRMo51WI/AAAAAAAAAXg/qIn5y-u8o7I/s1600/neaderthal.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear:left; float:left;margin-right:1em; margin-bottom:1em"><img border="0" height="314" width="400" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-pzFY7mPg-9k/TaMfRMo51WI/AAAAAAAAAXg/qIn5y-u8o7I/s400/neaderthal.jpg" /></a></div><br />I find it interesting that in all my interactions with people, I seek to leave them with a positive impression of their time with me. It is not something I actively work on, but something intuitive that compels me to create positive feedback from each person I come into contact with. It tends to make my life more pleasant in general because most people appreciate the effort and reciprocate. But it is a win some, lose some kind of game. Because not everybody shows the same deference to this civil mode of interaction. I am fascinated and slightly envious of people who do not have this compulsion though. <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2009/05/19/science/19tier.html?_r=2">John Tierney writes in the New York Times </a>of a quote from Jeffrey Miller of the University of New Mexico. “We evolved as social primates who hardly ever encountered strangers in prehistory,” Dr. Miller says. “So we instinctively treat all strangers as if they’re potential mates or friends or enemies. But your happiness and survival today don’t depend on your relationships with strangers. It doesn’t matter whether you get a nanosecond of deference from a shopkeeper or a stranger in an airport.” It is true that it doesn't matter but somehow most of us intuitively act as if it does matter. I love the reference to the evolutionary imperative that lies beneath the behavior and the need for positive response from those we do not know. He calls this desire to impress strangers "a quirky evolutionary byproduct of a smaller social world."<br /> <br />It somehow makes this slightly compulsive behavior less toxic and more amusing than anything else. And it reduces the significance of the less than pleasant interactions.Kelly @Try New Thingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14783473072507979007noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4291283772560499864.post-72034977180356417422011-04-03T18:27:00.000-07:002012-03-22T15:33:23.192-07:00Conformity<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-eTzoV0pZ35g/TZkcmXXRuOI/AAAAAAAAAXQ/lLkYX20NvjU/s1600/conformity-1680-1260.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear:left; float:left;margin-right:1em; margin-bottom:1em"><img border="0" height="300" width="400" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-eTzoV0pZ35g/TZkcmXXRuOI/AAAAAAAAAXQ/lLkYX20NvjU/s400/conformity-1680-1260.jpg" /></a></div><br />"To cling to the thoughts and ways of performing that you’ve always known is to resign yourself to being average. And mediocre. A spectator versus in the game." Robin Sharma<br /><br />Here is the thing about this. We are socialized to become spectators because spectators do not disturb the status quo. In her book <b><a href="http://books.google.ca/books?id=UILcQZS6Bi4C&pg=PA152&dq=Amazon+sociology+andersen&hl=en&ei=uxSZTeWiN4OdgQeWuey4CA&sa=X&oi=book_result&ct=book-thumbnail&resnum=1&ved=0CDUQ6wEwAA#v=onepage&q=Amazon%20sociology%20andersen&f=false">Sociology Understanding a Diverse Society</b> Margaret L. Andersen</a> states that "socialization is a form of social control. Because socialized people conform to cultural expectations, socialization gives society a certain degree of predictability, establishing patterns that be come the basis for social order." The message as we grow is that it is definitely better to roughly if not totally conform to societal norms. So breaking free from a lifetime of conformity requires some serious traction. <br /><br />How much easier it becomes to conform as we age too. We learn to get very good at fitting in to new situations because that guarantees our immediate and long term survival in those situations. Anytime we enter a new situation our need to conform rises. Two year olds exhibit a distinct unwillingness to conform. Teenagers experience the opposite, where they have a dangerously high need to conform. When we start a new job we sit back and watch while we learn the rules and the hierarchy of the new environment. And we learn those rules well. <br /><br />After a whole lifetime of conforming is it any surprise that men and women decide suddenly at fifty years old, give or take a few years, that we had so much to accomplish outside of the norm that society asked us to abide by. Sue Shellenbarger calls it "a psychological and spiritual upheaval [that] have been mistaken for menopause symptoms and reduced to a biological phenomenon". But is it possible that it is neither hormonal nor menopausal, but instead just a sudden recognition of our path as unique from the path that society would wish us to ponder. And such a committment to it that we will risk all to take that untravelled path and fulfill our raison d'etre in this life. To experience and live all the things that we were going to do once.<br /><br />There is a certain clarity in the simple realization of this thought. Like the clouds cleared and you just get it. It removes the danger flags and warnings that flash through you brain and you see it for what it is. A twinkling goal ahead on a clear night. You realize that all along nothing terrible would have actually happened. You would not have been left out in the cold. And if you were, you would have been okay with that.<br /><br />Get back into the game.Kelly @Try New Thingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14783473072507979007noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4291283772560499864.post-37439803724736297612011-03-16T19:25:00.000-07:002012-03-22T15:33:23.179-07:00Ground Rush<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-F8YON3LaUS0/TYFtTKa4MLI/AAAAAAAAAWk/bfTGzu8JboE/s1600/parachute2.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear:left; float:left;margin-right:1em; margin-bottom:1em"><img border="0" height="400" width="400" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-F8YON3LaUS0/TYFtTKa4MLI/AAAAAAAAAWk/bfTGzu8JboE/s400/parachute2.jpg" /></a></div><br />An amusing analogy compliments of the <a href="http://www.globeandmail.com">Globe & Mail </a>and John Morton of the <a href="http://www.bbccanada.com/">BBC</a>.<br /><br />"Parachutists call it ground rush. Apparently while you are falling through the sky and before you open your parachute, the perception is that you are dropping to the ground at a perfectly manageable speed. Yes, it's exhilarating, but there's plenty of time to take in the wonder of it all. But that's an illusion caused by a lack of visual cues. It's only when you drop below a certain height and suddenly become aware that the ground is rushing up to meet you that you realize how fast you have been falling all along. Maybe there is an analogy here for the way we experience time over the course of a human life." <br /><br />Enough said.Kelly @Try New Thingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14783473072507979007noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4291283772560499864.post-75432270323845296822011-03-11T12:38:00.000-08:002012-03-22T15:33:23.196-07:00Create Your Life<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhDnI1L1jmvE1_b01TGJDNdGq9WcRm6YmGbk1HdiAY-MmQyTMT-6z7BRvTS4NJ7YU1_29-Q7cR3E5U3M6XPc9vOcrkT1Qj4ij7yveOHC9BZx8_VdffJejnZDtRF9CD-XRGr5LqEy9rObsGl/s1600/this-is-your-life1.jpg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 385px; height: 400px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhDnI1L1jmvE1_b01TGJDNdGq9WcRm6YmGbk1HdiAY-MmQyTMT-6z7BRvTS4NJ7YU1_29-Q7cR3E5U3M6XPc9vOcrkT1Qj4ij7yveOHC9BZx8_VdffJejnZDtRF9CD-XRGr5LqEy9rObsGl/s400/this-is-your-life1.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5582938926097174962" /></a><br />I like that idea. We create our day and it accumulates to be our life. Rather than spending the day, and therefore our life, reacting to the things that come our way. That is not to say that we cannot absorb into our creation, the things that come our way with potential to enhance our day. The idea is to avoid spending a day being pushed and pulled by other's agendas and lose sight of your own agenda.<br /><br />I spent the day chasing after little dysfunctional details today. As the day comes to an end, I wonder about this wasted block of time and I know that there were a million other ways I could have spent the day. Sometimes it is necessary, as taking care of those annoying little details gets them out of the way. I prefer to do that all in one day. Plus they pay me to take care of those details!<br /><br />You wake up in the morning to a blank slate. A 24 hour hour period to fill as you wish. If you don't create it, it will pass by anyway. Wonderful hours left unused and wasted. I have used up about 19,345 days of my life. That is an alarming number. :) <br /><br />That said, if I live to be 90,I still have 13,500 days to fill with anything I want. That sounds exciting. It behooves me therefore, to waste a single day reacting to events. <br /><br />Creating a day involves some meditative thought before you start. I wrote a previous blog about <a href="http://fiftyandalmostfabulous.blogspot.com/2011/02/decide-to-be-happy.html">choosing to be happy</a>. This involved some morning rituals that reset your happy meter to high to start off your day. The result is that when you do, your day tends towards happy for the next 24 hours. I was sceptical but it turns out to be true for me. So that is the start of creating your day.<br /><br />Choose the main things that you would like to do that day that will make a day of your own choosing. Slot these in. As simple as a walk at midday or the creation of a fabulous dinner with friends. Remember that concept where if you fill a jar with small stones then there no longer exists room for the big rocks. If you put the big rocks in first, there still exists room for the small stones in between the rocks. The big rocks are the things that make your heart sing. Make sure you have room in your day for these.<br /><br />13,500 days. Creating not Reacting. Requires a little forethought but anything is possible then. Cool thoughts to end the week.Kelly @Try New Thingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14783473072507979007noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4291283772560499864.post-65537562944956340492011-02-27T12:52:00.000-08:002012-03-22T15:33:23.190-07:00Decide To Be Happy<a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-CyjrVy_QU6U/TWrJ65IEI2I/AAAAAAAAAWE/e1khyGn06bE/s1600/Full_moon_over_calm_ocean.jpg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 300px;" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-CyjrVy_QU6U/TWrJ65IEI2I/AAAAAAAAAWE/e1khyGn06bE/s400/Full_moon_over_calm_ocean.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5578493102056022882" /></a><br />Some days I think we just have to decide to be happy. I somehow view happy and less happy days as something that just happens to me, rather than something I control. I blame it on whatever is happening that day like a lousy meeting or an anticipated confrontation on an issue. Or on the fact that I did not eat right or exercise that day or the one prior. Or that I had one too many cocktails the day prior. Or that it is part of my physiological cycles. I see myself as dealing with it when it happens and not controlling it's existence.<br /><br />But over the last few weeks I have tried a few well publicized but rather trite techniques for being happy. And they resulted, more often than not, in a complete change in the quality of my day, no matter what was happening to me or around me in my environment. I experienced what I call intentional happiness. What a cool concept. It implies the reverse is also true. That I create my less happy days as well. I am responsible for the quality of my days. I like that. On one hand that is positive actionable knowledge, and on the other hand it makes me immensely accountable for each days moods.<br /><br />Even as I refer to the term 'moods' I realize that i have typically disowned my moods, whether they were positive or negative. This new knowledge implies that those moods do not just happen but that I have control over them....<br /><br />So here is a list of the things that I have practised to increase my daily dose of happy:<br /><br />1. When you wake up in the morning remind yourself that you are trying this new tactic for creating a happy day. Do this before you have started the tape in your brain that lists all the less desirable things you have to do that day. The one that moans about getting up in the first place, that curses the job that forces you to get up. You know that tape. Yours may say different things but we all have one.<br /><br />2. Replace the terrible tape with a list of things that are right with your world. The kids are all okay. You have a job or if you don't then you can be grateful for a day to yourself. You are warm and there is food in the kitchen and maybe a really good cup of coffee. We are not looking for the big things here. A long list of small things is more powerful than a short list of good things. Sometimes before I open my eyes I think of all the good things in my life and then I get up and start my day.<br /><br />3. While you think through this list and work to make it longer, smile. Tough one some days. But it is really hard to feel physically bad when you smile. Trust me and try it. I read somewhere that Steve Martin starts his day by laughing in the mirror for one full minute. Works for him!<br /><br />4. Feel peaceful and grounded and let that feeling take over your physical self. Sometimes, in order to feel grounded, it helps to feel the physical feeling of having roots which connect into the ground, like a tree does. It is easier to do after you have done the first three steps. Just trust me and try it. Someone else told me about it and for a while it meant nothing and then it just took hold. And I got it.<br /><br />5. Now go out and take on your day. Have your coffee and stay with the good thoughts and ping the bad ones. Gaze peacefully at those who may harsh your mellow (love that term) and move on with your day without engaging.<br /><br />I like that I can decide to be happy and then I am. A little magic in my day.Kelly @Try New Thingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14783473072507979007noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4291283772560499864.post-61222994110139673612011-02-17T18:21:00.000-08:002012-03-22T15:33:23.187-07:00Semi-Retirement<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhgwrSVRzDDz_L75PCDbefZ-hlG090DLIZr7o7MVdpSb8IUvLbdj3uW3Vrsl19RK1FDhyw0ay5h_YibWL-2L5qGtpqErnTYe78Ph_iAUJByIuz3S8ec-IAh2U93ZWFfIlUgyPlKkYAO_66D/s1600/yoga.jpg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 322px; height: 400px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhgwrSVRzDDz_L75PCDbefZ-hlG090DLIZr7o7MVdpSb8IUvLbdj3uW3Vrsl19RK1FDhyw0ay5h_YibWL-2L5qGtpqErnTYe78Ph_iAUJByIuz3S8ec-IAh2U93ZWFfIlUgyPlKkYAO_66D/s400/yoga.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5576713213414098930" /></a><br />I like that term. It involves working at something you might enjoy but not working all the time. Working on your own schedule. Choosing the number of hours and the tasks you do. Most people to whom I have spoken on this will say that the day they retired was glorious and full of the promise of doing all the things they never had time to do when they were fully employed.<br /><br />And then they started doing those things and realized that they did not want to do them after all. So they tried some other things. Each person wading through the choices and finding the ones that make them hum. I have a good friend who will retire in a couple of months and she is going to get in her car and drive off on the road trip that she has planned. How exciting to go with a general agenda but be open and flexible enough to change it as new experiences come in on the horizon.<br /><br />That is what retirement should be. Having a plan but being open to new ideas and shedding the old ones that turn out not to be what you had thought they could be. <br /><br />I am sure that exercising more tops any list of retirement priorities since as we age our bodies require more maintenance than they used to. But most people who actually have retired say that even though they are not working they still find it difficult to fit this in. Other things that make the list are spending time in the garden, learning to cook like a chef and travelling. <br /><br />My parents said they were planning to travel and did but found that as time went on they just liked to be home in the garden and hanging with family.<br /><br />So here is how I see it. Make plans. Create your wish list. Start trying each item on the list and if it fits wear it. If it doesn't leave it behind. Stay flexible and be willing to add and subtract from your list as you go.<br /><br />This applies to employment too. Try out different jobs that might be fun. A barista, an usher at a major sports building, the main desk at a busy fitness centre, the zoo. Volunteer or get paid a little. The goal is to have fun and still have time to do all those things you didn't have time for when you were working. It keeps you engaged socially and let's you learn new things that engage and challenge your mind and build new webs of neurons in your brain. And that will keep you interested and interesting as you age!Kelly @Try New Thingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14783473072507979007noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4291283772560499864.post-2332750443597854812011-02-02T13:04:00.000-08:002012-03-22T15:33:23.172-07:00Breaking the Paradigms that Define Us<a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_1ZSFkpw_Sm4/TUnPNLGyI9I/AAAAAAAAAVw/olLicmYzFjM/s1600/person-thinking.gif"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 366px; height: 225px;" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_1ZSFkpw_Sm4/TUnPNLGyI9I/AAAAAAAAAVw/olLicmYzFjM/s400/person-thinking.gif" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5569210239446819794" /></a><br /><br /><br /><br />I took some holidays without plans mostly because I had to take them or lose them. So I planned to work on the business and maybe get a feel for how it would feel without a 'real' job. My second son who still lives at home is away in Guatemala for the week so the whole image of what it is going to be like was very real.<br /><br />Day 1 was delicious. I slept in and woke up and had my coffee and read anything and everything for about two hours. Then I did a few things for the business. Then I went to the gym and did a spin class which made me feel amazing. I went home and on the way, stopped leisurely in to pick up a few groceries at the Italian deli, to make this meal I had in my mind to make. I took my dog for a walk and just appreciated the cold and snow rather than cursing it. While I put the dinner together I had a glass of the most amazing red wine, a Shiraz, called A Bird in Hand. Nothing rushed. Just simply in the moment each moment of the day.<br /><br />And I realized that staying in the moment instead of staying focused on the never ending list in your head is about doing less and running less. Trying to get less into your day rather than more. Is it always realistic that we could make that happen. Not sure.<br /><br />So then Day 2 arrived and started similar to Day 1 but throughout the day I was haunted by this aimless feeling of wasting time rather than treasuring each moment. I have heard others speak of it too. Wondered why it is that we feel that it is wasting time when we don't go out to do a job that has dubious relevance in the whole scheme of things and yet when we do the things that feel good and spend time with those who light us on fire, we feel an aimlessness and a low grade anxiety for not having accomplished much in our day.<br /><br />I guess 35 years of going to a job that society deems as credible, sits in my mind as a relevant way to spend my time. Busy-ness is valued. Busy-ness means you are important. The secret paradigm under which I and a lot of other people were schooled. I liked this video below. Simple but it is a great illustration of how a paradigm is formed.<br /><br />Is it possible to remove this programming from my brain and set up a new paradigm that actually values valuable time spent enjoying each moment rather than just filling each moment. Not sure but I intend to explore that option over the next two weeks. Since I am going back to the job, it will not truly represent the goal but it is as close as I can get right now. Emhasis on the 'right now'.Kelly @Try New Thingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14783473072507979007noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4291283772560499864.post-42467530048503570452011-02-01T10:28:00.000-08:002012-03-22T15:33:23.181-07:00Moonlight on the Rideau Canal in Ottawa<a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_1ZSFkpw_Sm4/TUhUOoCfWrI/AAAAAAAAAVo/nds94Z7LFpM/s1600/ottawa-100114-jeff-beedell-commuting-resized.jpg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 205px;" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_1ZSFkpw_Sm4/TUhUOoCfWrI/AAAAAAAAAVo/nds94Z7LFpM/s400/ottawa-100114-jeff-beedell-commuting-resized.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5568793549486381746" /></a><br />In the name of trying new things, I have a confession to make. I have not been trying new things in my personal realm. For the business every step I make is a new thing...some of them work and some of them do not. In my work life, the one that pays the bills, as opposed to the one that sucks up my money like a black hole, I am currently on a huge learning curve that is surprisingly most enjoyable. I am at my best when I am on my learning curve. That is something I know to be true about me. <br /><br />But it would seem that I can only manage so much learning curve at one time. So my realm of personal new experiences, although innately connected to my other growth experiences, is quite sadly lacking. <br /><br />That is part of the reason why, last weekend, we jumped in the car and drove to Ottawa Ontario Canada to visit some friends and....here it comes....we skated on the canal. For those of you who do not know Ottawa, the <a href="http://www.canadascapital.gc.ca/bins/ncc_web_content_page.asp?cid=16297-16299-10080&bhcp=1&lang=1">Rideau Canal </a>winds through the city for 5 miles as the world's longest ice skating rink, and when it freezes in the winter, they clear the snow and maintain the ice surface for skating. The midnight version of this experience is not to be missed. The whole distance is well lit, safe at night and we had the natural light of the moon adding atmosphere to an already magical experience. My two almost adult boys and their girlfriends with us totally.<br /><br />We went at midnight on a record cold moonlit night and there were still dozens of skaters that we passed through the night. It was one of those experiences that has been on my list for some time and there I was skimming along the ice surface completely oblivious to the freezing temperature.<br /><br />It does not get any better than that.Kelly @Try New Thingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14783473072507979007noreply@blogger.com0